So What Now?

Well, it was bound to happen. I am a gay man, and therefore, I have to stir the pot every once in a while to add a little drama. Yes, I am referring to quasi-dating guy. I am sure everyone has been wondering, "what ever happened to this dashing young prospect?" I can assure you he is still in the picture. And despite conflicting work schedules, familial obligations and travel, we managed to have another date on Wednesday. Yes, for those of you counting, that makes 8 officially sanctioned dates with this gentleman. Very nice evening. Great dinner. Fun drinks afterwards. All in all, it was good, actually, great, to finally see him again.

Of course, now that we have reached 8 dates, in the back of my mind I am wondering what direction we are headed in. Although the majority of me actually finds taking this very "whatever happens, happens" attitude extremely refreshing and significantly less stressful, the tiny paranoid, pessimistic gay man in all of us reared his ugly head and whispered in my ear, "WTF?" I tried to ask him that evening, but three glasses of wine and four pints made formulating thoughtful and intelligent questioning nearly impossible. So I emailed him. Yesterday. Simply asking what direction he sees us heading in. I am not sure that went over so well. Short story from his end: Not sure where things are going...not sure where he wants them to go. I guess I should not be surprised, nor should I necessarily care. I do like him...he is attractive, smart, witty and a great kisser. But I was not picking out china patterns. Nor has he earned the priveledge of meeting anyone in my life; and the same holds true from his end. However, ultimately, if I am going to "see" someone more than once and over a period of several weeks, then I want to have a clear idea of where it might be going, or at least have the possibility of going. If I am just a stop over on the road to the next best thing, then that's fine too, just so that I know to keep looking on my end as well (which I still am).

This was not an "are we exclusive" talk. Neither of us are even close to that point. But this is a guy who can't commit to doing anything with my over the weekend yet tells me he wants to get together again "sooner rather than later." I am willing to meet him half way, but one can only put one's self out there so many times. Am I crazy, or for once, just actually reading someone's signals correctly?